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Your Spouse had an affair, Now what? Part 2

Your spouse had an affair, now what? (Part 2)

 

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Don’t let your anger build up and turn into resentment

  • Don’t store up your anger. Instead, express it openly and honestly.
  • Don’t blame yourself for what happened.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help from others who are going through the same thing.
  • Avoid acting out in ways that could make things worse. Don’t stalk them or try to get revenge. This will only lengthen the process of healing for yourself.
  • Be realistic about what an affair means: while it is a betrayal of trust and may change how you see yourself as a couple forever, you may find that you want to work through this as a couple

Don’t let this experience define who you are and what kind of relationship or family can be salvaged from it. This is a time for healing and rebuilding trust in your relationship. Your spouse might seem like an enemy now, but only you can decide whether it’s worth saving the marriage.

It’s important to recognize that you are not to blame. If your spouse had an affair, it is not your fault, and this is not a reflection of you. There are many reasons why people cheat, and they don’t happen overnight. Instead, they happen over time as problems develop in the relationship and may even be related to the way we were raised! In fact, most of us have had friends or family members who were cheated on by their partners, so it’s hard for us to imagine how our loved one could have gone through with having an affair.

During this time, you will find yourself becoming introspective. You will find yourself doing a lot of analyzing of your relationship and both of your roles in it, you may even discover the reason this happened. It is ok to think about what could have been done differently, but don’t let that consume you. There are many ways to move on and heal after an affair.

Healing from an affair is difficult. Forgiveness takes time and self-reflection.

  • Ask yourself if you are prepared to forgive your partner. Can you forget, let go of the pain or do you need to fully understand what happened?
  • Are there other issues in your relationship that led to the affair? If so, ask yourself if these issues can be resolved or worked on with your spouse now that he or she has decided to return to the marriage.
  • What are you prepared to let go of? Do not expect perfection from either of you at this point; work together toward building a strong foundation by taking it one day at a time! Do not try and move ahead too quickly before all wounds have healed properly—this will only lead back down that road again!

Not only is it difficult because of the hurt caused during an affair, but also because some people believe forgiving means forgetting or excusing their partner’s behavior. Forgiveness takes time and self-reflection—it also requires getting in touch with your emotions so that they can be acknowledged and addressed appropriately. The first step in healing is to ask yourself what exactly it is that you’re prepared to forgive.

If you or someone you know is dealing with an affair, we hope this article inspires you to get out and seek help. It is important to remember that your healing is the priority at this time and you are not alone. You should seek help as quickly as possible; there is no benefit to struggle through the betrayl and pain.

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