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How to navigate different Attachment Styles – Part 2

Attachment Styles

 

Secure Attachment

HOW TO NAVIGATE DIFFERENT ATTACHMENT STYLES

Attachment style is a way of understanding how we interact with those around us. It’s an enduring characteristic that develops early in life and is based on our caregivers’ responsiveness to our needs as children.

Attachment styles are also influenced by the culture in which we grow up, but for the most part, they’re stable over time. If you’ve ever felt like something was off about your relationship with someone else or wondered why it feels so difficult to be close with someone who seems perfect for you in every other way — this article is for you!

Attachment style reflects levels of anxiety and avoidance

Attachment styles are categories that describe our relationship patterns with others. They reflect the levels of anxiety, avoidance and security we experience in our relationships.

  • Avoidants are low on anxiety and high on avoidance. They’re comfortable being independent, don’t need much affection from others and prefer to avoid intimacy.
  • Anxieties are high on anxiety and low on avoidance. They may worry about abandonment or rejection, yet they want intimacy just as much as anyone else does!
  • Secure people are low on both anxiety and avoidance. These folks feel safe without needing constant reassurance from the people around them—they can enjoy closeness while also being independent when they need to be!

What your attachment style means for you

The four attachment styles are:

  1. Secure attachment styles

Secure attachment styles are the most common and, in general, are associated with healthy relationships. People who tend to be securely attached tend to have secure adult relationships and reduce stress and anxiety. Securely attached people also get along well with others and are comfortable with intimacy.

  1. Anxious attachment style or insecure (i.e. preoccupied)

Anxious attachment style or insecure is characterized by a constant worry about the relationship, and a need for reassurance from your partner. While this may sound perfectly normal to you, people with this attachment style are often very anxious about their relationships and will try to keep their partner close by constantly talking about them. If you recognize yourself in any of these descriptions, then it’s likely that your attachment style is anxious/insecure.

This particular attachment style can be traced back to childhood experiences; if you were raised by parents who weren’t always there for you or were in an environment where there was lots of conflict then you may have developed an anxious/insecure attachment style because of it. People with this type of upbringing often find that they struggle when they’re away from their partner because they don’t feel safe without them around—and can sometimes even become jealous when they see other people getting attention too!

 3. Avoidant attachment style or insecure (i.e. dismissing)

Avoidant attachment style is characterized by a desire for independence and a fear of intimacy. Avoidants don’t want to be too close with other people because they are afraid that they will get hurt. They also tend to avoid situations that make them feel vulnerable, such as being in love or being intimate with someone else.

An avoidant attachment style is associated with low anxiety and low avoidance. Avoidants don’t worry about what others think about them, but if you have an avoidant attachment style you may also be more sensitive than people who do not have this type of attachment style.

People who have an avoidant attachment style tend not to trust others; therefore, it’s important not to take rejection personally when dating someone who has this type of insecure (i.e., dismissing) attachment style!

  1. Disorganized attachment style or insecure (i.e. unresolved/disoriented)

If you have a disorganized attachment style, you may have trouble regulating your emotions and can act out in ways that are not helpful. You may be very impulsive and have trouble with self-control. You might also be sensitive to rejection, but also tend to push people away before they can get close enough to hurt you.

I hope this article has been helpful to you. We will be posting part 3 next week, make sure you check it out and learn about the different attachment styles.  If you missed Part 1, be sure to check it, we discuss how attachmet styles are formed.

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